Proceedings concerning children after parents have separated can be an extremely challenging time for everyone involved. A whirl of emotions can make the process of resolving child arrangements feel like a mountain to climb!

CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) have put together some “top tips” for parents going through proceedings before the family court, to help them think about how they can minimise the damaging impact of separation and court proceedings upon their children.

1. Court proceedings should be the last resort. Going to court can be expensive, and you may not get your desired outcome at the end of it. You should consider other ways to resolve the issues, such as mediation (which is a prerequisite to any Court application).

2. Consider that court proceedings can take a long time. Often, proceedings can go on for months and months. This length in time can affect your child’s emotional wellbeing, and their relationship with both parents. One year from a young child’s perspective is a very long time!
    

3. Make sure your child feels supported. Family proceedings can be emotionally challenging for children to experience. If your child is struggling emotionally, speak to professionals and seek support from their school or GP.
    

4. Take care of yourself. The court process is distressing for everyone involved. Remember to take care of your own wellbeing.
    

5. Maintain positive communication with the other party. When the important adults have good communication with each other, the child can see that they have their best interests at heart. Acting in the best interests of the children is paramount to any proceedings and should be at the front of everyone’s mind.
    

6. Do not argue with each other. Both parents love their child and want what is best for them. Arguing and criticising each other in front of your child may make them think otherwise.
    

7. Do not share details on social media. Family proceedings are extremely confidential matters. Avoid sharing your current difficulties on social media as your child may become aware of this, causing them upset and embarrassment.
    

8. Encourage and support your child’s relationship with extended family members. Grandparents and other family members love your child too, and want to maintain a relationship with them.
    

Our specialist Childcare Team offer legal advice to parents who are seeking to settle issues with child arrangements. Should you require any assistance, please call us on 01935 424581 and ask to speak with a member of the Childcare Team, who will be happy to assist you.